The Will to Change

The Will to Change Everyone Needs To Love And Be Loved Even Men But To Know Love, Men Must Be Able To Look At The Ways That Patriarchal Culture Keeps Them From Knowing Themselves, From Being In Touch With Their Feelings, From Loving In The Will To Change, Bell Hooks Gets To The Heart Of The Matter And Shows Men How To Express The Emotions That Are A Fundamental Part Of Who They Are Whatever Their Age, Marital Status, Ethnicity, Or Sexual Orientation With Trademark Candor And Fierce Intelligence, Hooks Addresses The Most Common Concerns Of Men, Such As Fear Of Intimacy And Loss Of Their Patriarchal Place In Society, In New And Challenging Ways She Believes Men Can Find The Way To Spiritual Unity By Getting Back In Touch With The Emotionally Open Part Of Themselves And Lay Claim To The Rich And Rewarding Inner Lives That Have Historically Been The Exclusive Province Of Women A Brave And Astonishing Work, The Will To Change Is Designed To Help Men Reclaim The Best Part Of Themselves. Every man, and everyone who loves a man, should read this book The Will to Change carries a revolution in its pages bell hooks argues with fierce eloquence about how we socialize men to numb their emotions, to only express anger and rage She conveys honest compassion by contending that we must socialize everyone to honor male pain so that men will treat others with loving kindness, lest they forever repress their feelings to live up to the awful standards of toxic masculinity One of the seve Every man, and everyone who loves a man, should read this book The Will to Change carries a revolution in its pages bell hooks argues with fierce eloquence about how we socialize men to numb their emotions, to only express anger and rage She conveys honest compassion by contending that we
bell hooks defines this project as an attempt to love men enough to understand how patriarchy affects them, and understand how their pain can help them transform and challenge patriarchy For me it was a profound experience reading this because it touched on so many aspects of my life as a male, from childhood, to school, to sex and relationships, to friendships, etc It allowed me to see old memories in new ways, and understand that my feelings of pain, confusion and shame were a result of the bell hooks defines this project as an attempt to love men enough to understand how patriarchy affects them
When I developed my feminist sensibilities in the 1990s, it was bell hooks who was first to validate not only my place as a feminist man but to ardently argue for my space as a comrade in feminist work It was going to take feminist women and feminist men collaborating together in order to do the work so desperately needed.Ever since then, bell hooks has been a huge part in my growth as a feminist, teacher, and man And since the publication of The Will to Change in 2004, I ve probably returned When I developed my feminist sensibilities in the 1990s, it was bell hooks who was first to validate not only my place as a feminist man but to ardently argue for my space as a comrade in feminist work It was going to take feminist women and feminist men collaborating together in order to do the work so desper
This book has answered almost every question I ve ever had about men and why they are the way they are It has helped restore my faith in men as a sex Instead of just pointing out the injustices of patriarchy, Hooks explains, step by step, exactly how men are socialized to be violent, and given misguided notions about what it means to be male For the first time, I was introduced to the idea that m
I have profound respect for bell hooks She is and will probably always be one of the most clear minded and insightful feminist theorists for years to come Her works and lectures can be both mind blowing and humbling And a book like this is important because men need a better understanding of their place in the movement as allies and we need to be reminded at times that they can and should be better That being said, it w
Important and original I appreciate how much space hooks spends on quoting and citing other authors especially psychotherapists, which made me happy it s the mark of a great thinker who isn t afraid to give credit where credit is due This is one of the rare books on masculinity that addresses the topic with sensitivity and also without blaming women or feminism for all of the problems.My two main criticisms are 1 hooks seems very gender essentialist She continually expresses her arguments Important and original I appreciate how much space hooks spends on quoting and citing other authors especially psychotherapists, which made me happy it s the mark of a great thinker who isn t afraid to give credit where credit is due This is one of the rare books on masculinity that addresses the topic with sensitivity and also without blaming women or feminism for all of the problems.My two main criticisms
Wow It feels inadequate to write a review of this book because for me, reading it was profoundly life changing It forced to me to recharacterize my entire childhood and experience of gender.So I ll just say
If we cannot heal what we cannot feel, by supporting patriarchal culture that socializes men to deny feelings, we doom them to live in states of emotional numbness While I have been educating myself in feminist theories lately, I started thinking about how much energy and emotional real estate I squandered due to misogynistic ideas and words I have played my part in patriarchal gender norms and let me tell you, it was incredibly toxic This book really hit close to home for me Anyhow, I fe If we cannot heal what we cannot feel, by supporting patriarchal
This book absolutely changed my life How often do you get to say that Even better, it was a gift from one of my daughters who was then surprised that I read it It told meabout myself, my upbringing, and my place in the world than I could have imagined If this were required reading for every member of modern society, the world would be ahabitable place It could literally end war It s not easy, but neither is life Women and men will both gain new insight into how we are all perp This book absolutely changed my life How often do you get to say that Even better, it was a gift from one of my daughters who was then surprised that I read it It told meabout myself, my upbringing, and my place in the world than I could have imagined If this were required reading for every member of modern society, the world would be ahabitable place It could literally end war It s not easy, but neither is life Women and men will both gain new insight into how we are all
hooks writes, with care and patience, of the social disease that is patriarchy and its attendant costs for men, women and the relationships that sustain them in conversational tone, she tells stories of how the ways in which men learn to deny or displace their feelings creates a whole population of emotional cripples, subject to constant suffering And by avoiding this pain and the ways oppressive systems oppress across all divides, we women are not only doing an injustice to the men in our liv hooks writes, with care and patience, of the social disease that is patriarchy and its attendant costs for men, women and the relationships that sustain them in conversational tone, she tells stories of how the ways in which men learn to deny or displace their feelings creates a whole population of emotional cripples, subject to constant suffering And by avoiding this pain and the ways oppressive systems oppress across all divides, we women are not only doing an injustice to the men in our lives but are perpetuating systems of injusticebroadly I would recommend it for these insights alone, ones I ve been in desperate need, ive come to realize, to see in print she is also on the mark with the awareness that women cannot pull

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  • Paperback
  • 188 pages
  • The Will to Change
  • bell hooks
  • English
  • 12 January 2019
  • 0743456084